Mathematics of Love

I recently had lunch with a friend of mine — a 20-something, hand­some, col­lege edu­cated male whose smile can bring sun­shine on a dreary day, his some­what dry sense of humor can lift your spir­its and whose over­all kind­ness and gen­eros­ity I find rare nowa­days. He’s look­ing for love — a love that lasts a life­time, binds your heart and soul and makes an unbreak­able con­nec­tion with some­one. And he wants to be in love — that glo­ri­ous state of nir­vana when your heart skips a beat at the sound of your partner’s name, when the phone rings, an unex­pected text or email arrives and when you see them your soul feels like it’s melt­ing. The feel­ing of bliss and light­ness, a nat­ural high that seem­ingly puts a smile on your face even while you’re alone.

My dear friend admits to never being “in love” and think­ing that when he meets that spe­cial some­one he should have the almost imme­di­ate feel­ing of being in love. What a con­ver­sa­tion we had…for love takes time. How much time do you ask? Well, that depends. It depends on what I like to refer to as the math­e­mat­ics of love. A sim­ple for­mula, built over your own per­sonal timeline.

Are you in love? 

How long did it take you to go from lust to love? 

Do you believe in lust?

We’d love to hear your experience(s) — does love > lust? I think it does. I think my friend is begin­ning to under­stand this as well. Here’s to him find­ing the love of his life — over time — with all the math­e­mat­ics of love.

Writ­ten by Ms. Renee Vevea, glad to put her minor in math to good use and a believer in love over lust.