Yes, I know. Romance. A topic often written about, complained about, wondered about. And it seems its women who are the ones writing, complaining and wondering…wondering why they perhaps don’t have enough romance in their lives, why their partners don’t ‘get it’, why the only time their partners are romantic are during Hallmark-induced holidays, birthdays, Valentine’s and Christmas. Gee, if your birthday falls outside these holidays, you might be lucky and have a bit of romance on a quarterly schedule.
Have you heard the joke that a man vacuuming the house is foreplay? If vacuuming is foreplay, cleaning the toilet must almost be like sex.
Perhaps the problem with thinking that you don’t get enough romance in your life or that your partner isn’t romantic isn’t with the mere lack of romance but perhaps with our expectation of romance. Always expecting something can lead to disappointment. Expecting your partner to always tell you that you look sexy and beautiful, schedule romantic dinners every Saturday night, or give you small gifts or cards for no reason is…unreasonable?
What is more romantic than your partner rolling over in bed on a Sunday morning after a late-night party on Saturday night and saying “you are the most beautiful woman” while your face looks like a mascara wand ran railroad tracks in all directions? Or when your partner says “I love you” out of the blue? It’s the unexpected expressions of romance that make a relationship romantic — especially if it’s not on Sweetest Day. Lucky for me, I haven’t pushed a vacuum in in a few years.…I get lots of foreplay.
Written by Ms. Renee Vevea, who loves watching a man vacuum.